When we look at anger management one needs to look at some PRINCIPLES OF ENGAGEMENT

The main problem in getting along with people is that they are so human and quirky. No doubt Paul had our human frailty in mind when he said, "Make allowance for each other's faults" (Colossians 3:13, NLT).

So, the first principle of engagement is: "make allowance for each other's faults." Expect people to let you down from time to time. Don't expect a difficult person to suddenly grow up.

There are several ways, or systems of managing Anger, here is a few. 

Before you speak or do anything else, think through all the steps below.
Recognize and admit the anger to yourself.
Identify the target and the cause of the anger.
Consider all the options for responding and their possible results.
Directly and verbally express the anger.
Use humor.
Let it pass.
Focus on something else.
Get involved in physical activity.
Find a different way to look at the situation.
Rest, use relaxation techniques, meditation, or deep breathing exercises.
Choose the best option  Do it. 

Primary feeling that need to be looked at: