When we look at the Child in early adolescence from 11 to 15 they are developing very fast in their sexual feelings and interest for which a social out is necessary. This is going to keep parents on the go taking them to sporting events, dancing, music, and other activities that interest the children. Recreational programs and practices to develop skills for successful participation in groups, make parenting very challenging. They are going to have many tasks they want to achieve socially. The need to keep the sexual drives under control is an area parents need to become involved in, guiding as they role play positive relationships with opposites. We are living in a world when TV is accepting Hollywood’s style of anything goes, along with the advertising world. Parents need to be careful of what comes into the home, garbage in, garbage out. That is not saying sex is bad, but needs to be kept in proper prospective. The teaching of sex in our school is having a negative effect on many children, because they are teaching how, rather than abstaining. One can see this happening at all levels of a child’s life from here on, for they are acting out what they are taught. This is an age when parents need to be working overtime; to make sure communication is proper and the child does not become rebellious and indifferent to high standards of morality. Lets not be ambivalent as parents to what are children are doing, in going to movies, playing on X boxes, play stations or game boys, and type of music listening to. Yes, they are learning to become independent, but make sure they understand the consequences of good behavior from bad. Honor the good and punish the bad or you will find the older they get the more punishment they will meter out to you as parents. Learn to know what tough love is all about, that is discipline being, love in action. Proverbs 13:24 says He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes. Proverbs 19:18 Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let thy soul spare for his crying. Proverbs 22:15 Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child, but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him. The laws of our land still honors the parent in disciplining our children by spanking correctly. Many today are not spanked but shake, or beaten by cords, sticks, or want ever the parent finds close at hand. This is totally wrong, for it leaves marks and scares for life. But a spanking with the hand on the bottom of the child will do wonders for the psychic of the child as we do it because we love them. Do not be afraid of damaging your child by correcting them, they will want to hug you right after the spanking. This is what it means to fear God, not that He is going to spank us, but corrects us, so we understand we do not have to suffer here on earth, or when we die in Hell. Heaven awaits us as we obey His commandments and precepts, so it will be with your children, when they get older it will be a beautiful experience. Parents love you children and learn not to spoil them. We certainly need help in today’s society to accomplish the Lords will for our families in every area of life. Don’t forget who you are! |